Every week in The Library, our Daily ORs spark thoughtful choices that tell us more about who we are — and how we connect with others.
This week’s set is no exception, offering windows into personality, values, and the ways we see the world. Whether you’re already a member or just discovering us, these choices invite you to pause, reflect, and perhaps even learn a little about yourself.
Philosophy and Psychology: Moral absolutism OR Ethical relativism
Do you believe there are unchanging truths that guide right and wrong? Or do you see ethics as flexible, shaped by culture and circumstance? This choice reflects how you approach judgment, forgiveness, and compromise in relationships. Someone who values absolutism may seek clarity and certainty, while a relativist might prioritise empathy and adaptability.
Arts and Recreation: Watching blockbuster films OR Exploring indie cinema
Your film preference can say a lot. Big blockbusters often appeal to those who thrive on shared cultural moments, energy, and spectacle. Indie cinema, on the other hand, may speak to curiosity, an eye for detail, and appreciation of nuance. Both are valid — but they show different ways of finding meaning and joy in the arts.
Literature: Read to understand society OR Read to escape society
Books are both mirrors and doorways. Some people turn to literature to analyse and critique the world around them, while others use it as a refuge — a place of solace, imagination, and distance from daily life. Which side you lean towards can reveal whether you crave engagement or retreat in your intellectual world.
Place: Working in a big city OR Working from a remote cabin
Urban life offers pace, ambition, and constant change. A remote cabin brings solitude, reflection, and stillness. This OR isn’t just about geography — it’s about where you feel most alive. Do you recharge in the buzz of people, or in the quiet of your own space?
Food and Drink: Cooking as therapy OR Food as fuel
For some, preparing a meal is an act of love and creativity. For others, food is a means to an end — something efficient to power the next adventure. Your choice can reflect how you view daily rituals: as an opportunity to slow down and savour, or to optimise and keep moving.
Technology: Prefer texting OR Prefer phone calls
A simple OR with surprising depth. Do you thrive on efficiency, control, and having time to craft your words? Or do you prefer the warmth, spontaneity, and emotional richness of a voice? How you choose reflects how you most comfortably build connections.
History and Geography: National pride OR Global citizenship
This OR touches on identity at the deepest level. Do you feel rooted in one place, cherishing heritage and tradition? Or do you see yourself as a citizen of the world, with bonds that cross borders? Both reveal how you approach belonging, loyalty, and perspective.
Why Your Answers Matter in The Library
In The Library, each answer brings you closer to finding good Matches. Our community isn’t about swiping on photos or chasing instant impressions — it’s about understanding how people think and feel.
That’s why The Library is different:
✨ Photo-free – no snap judgments
✨ Swiping-free – thoughtful choices, not endless scrolling
✨ Ad-free – a calm, genuine space to connect
Whether you’re seeking online dating or online friendship, your answers to the Daily ORs help reveal your character, your pace, and your priorities. They open doors to people who see the world like you do — or who challenge you in all the right ways.
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