Getting started in The Library®

The Library represents a different way of online dating.

In 10 quick steps, you can start the next chapter of your life by matching and connecting with some likeminded souls.

Getting Started in The Library

Slow, authentic dating starts with a few simple steps:

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✅ Verify your Email & Age
We care about keeping The Library safe and genuine.

• First, check your inbox to verify your email.
• Then, follow the on-screen steps to confirm you’re over 18—just to keep things authentic and secure.

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👤 Edit Your Profile
We only ask for the basics to match you thoughtfully.

• You’ll get a unique username to protect your privacy.
• You can update your info anytime in your Profile area.

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💞 Set Your Match Preferences
Tell us who you’d like to meet—change it anytime under Profile.

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📚 Create Your Catalogue Cards
These little cards let your connections learn more about you.
Feel free to update them whenever you like.

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📖 Explore Your Homepage & Answer Your First OR
Click the Daily OR drawer to begin.

• Your answers help us match you with like-minded members.
• Have a good think, do a bit of research maybe. The truer your response, the more authentic your connections will be.

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🗓 Catch Up on ORs
You can answer up to 12 days’ worth of questions—click the Daily OR drawer again to fill in the blanks.

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✨ Check Your Matches
Found in your Matches Drawer—members are listed by how many ORs you share.
(If it looks empty, try logging out and in—we’re working on it!)

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📬 Send a Connection
Browse a match’s ORs.
Like what you see? Send a connection request. They’ve got 7 days to reply, and then it’s over to you both in private chat.

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💌 Stamps = Connections
You use Library Stamps to connect.

• You’ll get 4 free Stamps to start—enough for 2 connections.
• Buy more only when you’re sure The Library’s for you.
• Or earn extra Stamps by giving helpful feedback!

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📆 ORs = Matches
The more Daily ORs you answer, the more matches you’ll see.
Take it slow—this is slow dating done differently.

Online dating can be a daunting prospect.

In The Library, we do everything we can to make sure your privacy is protected until you decide are ready to share more.

Don’t rush: the quality of the relationships you build will be better if you take your time.