At The Library, connection starts not with a photo or a swipe, but with a question. Each day, we ask our members to choose between two thoughtful prompts — we call them the Daily ORs — to help them reflect on what really matters and match with people who feel the same.
Whether you’re here for online dating or meaningful online friendship, your answers offer a window into the kind of life you want to live — and the kind of person you want by your side.
Here’s what this week’s Daily ORs explore:
🔮 Fate controls destiny OR We shape our fate
Are you guided by a belief in destiny — that things are meant to be? Or do you believe that we carve our own path through intention and choice?
This OR hints at your deeper philosophy on life, love, and possibility.
🎵 Loud concerts OR Quiet poetry readings
Do you thrive on bold, social energy, or do you find beauty in introspective stillness?
This choice can reflect how you recharge, how you express yourself, and how you engage with the world around you.
📚 Enjoy discussing books socially OR Prefer solitary reading time
Some of us come alive through shared ideas, while others savour the quiet companionship of a good book.
This question tells us how you process, relate, and reflect — alone or with others.
🌿 Living close to nature OR Being part of a metropolis
Do you feel most at home among trees, stars, and stillness — or in the hum of a vibrant, modern city?
Your answer may reveal your sense of pace, place, and what “belonging” looks like to you.
🍎 Locally sourced produce OR Global food imports
Is your taste rooted in the local and seasonal — or do you explore flavour as a passport to the world?
It’s about more than food — it’s about curiosity, connection, and values.
🔐 Online privacy matters OR Nothing to hide
Are you cautious and private by default, or open and transparent?
This choice can reflect your comfort with technology, your boundaries, and how you balance trust with caution.
🎞️ Historical fiction OR Documentary storytelling
Do you gravitate toward the imagined emotional truths of fiction — or the grounded clarity of real-life events?
Your answer reveals how you connect with stories, history, and truth.
Why These Choices Matter
The Daily ORs aren’t just conversation starters — they’re quiet clues about how we move through the world. Every answer adds another thread to your story, helping The Library bring you closer to Matches who understand you — because they think and feel like you.
This is online dating reimagined.
This is online friendship that feels human.
Ready to connect through something more real?
Join The Library. No photos. No swiping. No advertising. Just thoughtful questions, meaningful answers, and matches made through mindset, not appearances.